One of the great things about this project, though, is that there really are no rules, either for me or for my Facebook friends, other than that there's an unspoken expectation that we both show up. Ditching is a faux pas, but everything else is a go. So when I met with MB today at an eatery in a mall, my initial plan was that I was going to get a peanut butter and jelly sandwich. Upon seeing their menu board, though, I really wanted their chicken cheddar sandwich, so that's what I got. Changing my mind at the last minute over something as consequential as a sandwich? Madness, I know.
This flexibility also comes in handy when people are hard to get onto my calendar. I don't know what the issue is. It's as if my Facebook friends have careers, family, and/or other somewhat important things going on in their lives. Such is the case with MB, a former law school classmate of mine who is now working at a law firm somewhere doing something for somebody. Now, one might think, "Hey, Mikel, you don't seem to know that much about MB, especially considering that you just spent time with her and the entire point of this project is to know your Facebook friends better." And one would be partially correct. But I'd offer, in my defense, that I actually do know MB better than I did before today, even if I can't recite to you her favorite childhood memory. I'd also offer that MB and I had a grand total of 40 minutes together today, and that was after not having seen one another for over 13 months, so we both had to work with what we had, which was a limited amount of time. As it turns out, MB is a busy person for all of the right reasons. So when my opportunity to meet with her arose, I took it, and I counted myself lucky.
That's the nature of the beast though. Like I've said before, I'm not going to make best friends with every single one of my Facebook friends that I meet. I am, however, going to take a lot of first steps necessary to develop more meaningful relationships. Without these first steps, nothing else would ever unfold between me and MB / every other Facebook friend that I'm seeing. And perhaps nothing more will develop even with these first steps, but at least I'm not limiting myself to a friendless life without even giving the friendship thing a fair shake. I can't guarantee what'll happen with my tomorrow, but at least I can guarantee that today was good, and that the possibilities for my tomorrow are greater because of my today.