Well, I screwed up and read some of the comments on People.com's Facebook post about the article. While most of them were positive and uplifting (not to mention that the article was "liked" over 10,000 times), some of the comments questioned my sexuality (still straight, folks . . . and so what if I'm not?), and others were just plain mean. My mellow was quickly getting harshed, but then I saw a comment in my defense, written by J, a former classmate from law school. Though she might have written it with the sole intention of riding the oh-that-guy-is-my-friend-i-swear bandwagon, I simply didn't care. I loved it.
A day later, J was at my place, having dinner with me and my wife. She told us some pretty grand stories about her former life as a mortician, but what stood out to me wasn't the coolness of her past profession, but rather how every story seemed to highlight her fighter tendencies. On Day 20, I met with and wrote about my fighter friend, S. If you read it, you already understand that I have a special place in my heart for the fighter friend. So as I listened to Jill tell her stories (every one of which contained a fair amount of "So I told him to f**k off"), I wondered if I had found another fighter friend. Shortly thereafter, we went down to the condo's community room to play (is that the right word?) some pool, and she kept right on going with her fighter friend qualities (e.g. crashing the engagement party that was already happening there, dropping f-bombs in front of the trembling children, and locking partygoers out of the room once they left it to use the bathroom, all the while laughing maniacally / awesomely).
I've spent some time trying to figure out how to maintain these budding friendships forged during this journey, but I haven't come to any conclusions yet. Simply put, I'm not sure if I'll be able to dedicate enough time to all of my relationships in order to properly nurture them. Perhaps it just isn't realistic. That makes me a little sad, but it also just might be how life works. But I can see my friendship with J lasting quite awhile, at least on my end of things, and I hope that she feels the same. I need as many fighter friends in my life as I can get.