I'm a selfish person, with all of the goods and bads that come along with selfishness. Most people are that way, in my opinion anyways, though I admittedly embrace it more than the average. If I don't want to do something, if it doesn't bring me some sort of happiness / reward, either in the now or in the later, then I try not to do it. Keep in mind, though, that I have a rather expansive list of things that make me happy. I'm a big fan, for example, of eating. Consequently, I can view working as something that I want to do since, at some point down the road, it rewards me with a happy, bloated feeling.
I met up with T at a tavern in St. Paul. Just five hours earlier, he had taken a final exam. It was the last final exam he'd take before receiving his J.D. Very cool. I was a bit late in my arrival, so when I showed up, the waitress came right over to ask what I wanted to drink. I'd never been to this tavern before, didn't know how to order, so I told her to bring me whatever was cheapest. As she left, I asked T, "What's the best way to drink here?" He responded, "I do what I want," then he explained that if he wants something, he gets it. If it costs more than the bottom-shelf alternative, so be it. I absolutely loved it.
The "I do what I want" attitude has it limits. For example, T went on to state that even if he wanted it, he wouldn't necessarily pay double digits for a drink. I suggested that perhaps we could amend the statement to "I do what I want, to a certain extent," "I do what I want, within reason," or "I do what I want, asterisk." And on a bigger scale, the mantra shouldn't be used when it is to the detriment of others. There is no excuse for hurting others, no matter how badly you want to do so. But T isn't hurting others. He's simply doing what he wants, enjoying a better beer, a "marginal" marriage, a J.D., a successful career in the military, and a host of great things still to come. Good for him.