C came over for lunch today. He was accompanied by his wife, V, and their three children. C is an old classmate from law school. He was in his third year while I was in my first, and I estimate that we might have exchanged between 15 and 20 words before today. I was rather flattered not only that he accepted the invitation to visit my home today, but that he sort of initiated the whole thing. It was nice not to have to twist any arms.
C and V are both successful and attractive people that have great smiles. Additionally, C is quite tall. As a consequence, my wife would not stop talking about them as I was trying to fall asleep later that night. I appreciate talking about new people we've met as much as the next sleepy person, but my bed seemed extra cozy, my sheets extra soft, and my wife extra wordy on this occasion. Besides, what intrigued me most about them wasn't the attributes previously mentioned, but that they did have extremely different views from one another on one of the biggest things in life.
I considered this for awhile and am, in fact, still considering it. How do they live with somebody whose views are so different from their own? How do they not end up as a Dateline murder/mystery (also, it's not a "mystery" -- the husband always kills the wife at the cliffs while "hiking" and always does it for the insurance money)? Those questions remain unanswered for the time being. Simply put, I don't know how they do it.
But maybe it's a good thing that they can do it. I can put aside major differences between me and my neighbor to have a friendly, neighborly relationship. I consider myself better because of it, and better than the person who can't. Perhaps being able to put aside major differences between spouses is just an extension of that. Perhaps C and V are not only better off, but also better than I am because they can put aside a major difference between themselves to have a loving, marital relationship. I don't know though. I won't / can't commit to anything just yet, except that I find them to be incredibly interesting, thoughtful, and people and I am glad that I finally took the time to know them a little bit better than 15-20 words could provide.